When we evoke the horrors of childhood, it is often adolescence that comes to mind: that dreaded moment during which your kid struggles painfully, drunk by this flood of hormones that assails him.
But make no mistake about it: if for beginner parents, adolescence can look like a descent into hell, the terrible two has also knocked out more than one.
Since your child has become aware of his relative independence, he has only one objective: to launch a putsch, to become Caliph in place of the Caliph and to impose a new political regime on the family territory, by distributing Haribo and squirts of soft poop on the walls.
And of course, despite all the love you have for him, you are not determined to let your puppy nibble on your brain, neuron by neuron.
Manage the terrible two in 9 tips
Rest assured, the terrible two is an essential stage in a child's development. It is therefore a good thing that you spend there, since it is necessary that your puppy learns to express his frustration.
Armed with his recent mastery of negation, is your kid wearing you out? Maybe, but you haven't said your last word!
TOP 1 | Terrible two: never let go
Does your puppy wear out your nerves, bristle your hair, break your ears? Hold on tight. The worst service you could do for him would be to let him fully experience his whims and anger. To allow him to control his frustration, to channel his emotions, to perceive the limits that you impose on him, he needs you and your consistency.
TOP 2 | Terrible two: set clear rules
If like me, you do not like authority or constraint, you will have to do violence to yourself. Your kid needs to know your limits. It's up to you to define them and let him know. It is up to him to test them and possibly to exceed them. All this in kindness. Because it is not a question of confusing firmness and authoritarianism ...
TOP 3 | Terrible two: stand firm
As you have no doubt noticed, a child very rarely stops at a firm and definitive "no". He returns to the charge until you crack. But aware of the need to be confident, you do not give in to its assaults and stand firm on your position, without closing the door to dialogue.
TOP 4 | Terrible two: master yourself
Be careful, firmness does not mean anger. You must express your refusal calmly and confidently, with strength and determination. Without ever falling into violence. Remember that you are a role model for your child. If you are angry, he may imitate you.
TOP 5 | Terrible two: don't hold a grudge
Obviously, a refusal or an order from you can very quickly put your kid in a ball. Show him that you understand how he can feel with simple words, while being adamant. Above all, do not hold a grudge once the anger has subsided. Stick to his attitude, come to terms with him, offer him a hug and get back to your activities. The parenthesis is closed.
TOP 6 | Terrible two: be cunning
Certain tricks can help calm baby's ardor… at least for a while. For example, give him the opportunity to make choices. If he does not want to wash, ask him for example if he prefers to go in the shower " with the yellow duck or the blue whale. "? The timer stroke, which you will take care to show him, can also be useful to mark the end of an activity for example.
TOP 7 | Terrible two: give him access to language
If your child is angry, it is often because he has no other way of expressing what he is feeling. Help him to express his feelings in simple words, use books or songs. The cries will gradually disappear with the acquisition of language.
TOP 8 | Terrible two: let the crises pass
This is the trick that divides. Yet those who have tried it know the result. Putting his child back (in a way) allows him to come to his senses and to understand that his behavior is not correct. Once your kid has calmed down, explain to him without reproach the reasons for your conflict. And everything should be back to normal quickly!
TOP 9 | Terrible two: give love
Love is the key to all problems. Always remember to tell your children that you love them, that they are behaving well, or that they are giving in to their emotions.
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